ThepuppylovewithChinesecharacteristics
NowadaysinChina,bothadultsandchildrenaretroubledbytheso-calledpuppylove.Insometeachersandparents’opinion,thoseprecociouschildrenaretoblame.However,IbelievethattheproblemiscausedbythewholeChinesesociety.
Tobeexactly,westernpeopleandChinesepeoplehavedifferentunderstandingsofpuppylove,sowesternsocietyandChinesesocietytreatpuppylovedifferently.Westernpeopleusuallythinkthatpuppyloveisjustshallowromanticattachmentassociatedwithadolescentsandit’snothingserious.Sothewesternsocietycanacceptchildrenhavepuppylove.AfriendofminehastoldmethatherSwedishcousin’sfamiliesgetalongwellwithhislittlegirlfriendandthegirloftenhasdinnerwithhisfamily.What’smore,shesometimeslivesinhishouse.Well,bornandlivinginChina,canyouimaginethesethingshappentoyou?InChina,havingpuppyloveisbelievedtobewrong.MostparentsholdtheopinionthatpuppyloveisjustliketheserpentthattempedEveanditwillinfluencechildren’sstudieswithoutdoubt.Thus,adultsincludingparentsandteacherstryallkindsofmeanstostoppuppyloveandsocietyalsodoesn’tacceptpuppylove.Bythistoken,theproblemofpuppyloveonlyexistsinChinainsomeways.IthasChinesecharacteristics.
Tosomeextent,puppyloveisyoungsters’nature.Whenkidsareintheirteens,theyarenolongerignorant.Theybecomeinterestedintheoppositesex,soit’snaturalforadolescentstohaveaffectionsfortheoppositesex.Chineseadultstrytheirbesttoeliminatepuppylove.Parentsandteacherstellthechildrennottomakefriendswiththeoppositesexandevenalawismadetostoppuppylove.Herearetwofacts.AccordingtoarecentinterviewinakeyhighschoolinBeijing,asmanyas95.7%parentsopposetheirkidstomakeheterosexualfriendswhileonlyhalfofthechildrenobjecttomakingheterosexualfriends.Thissummer,alawinwhichstoppingpuppyloveisclassifiedasfamilyprotectingcontentispassedinHeilongjiangtoprotectminors.It’sordainedthatparentsorguardiansshouldstopandrectifythebehavioursofpuppyloveandcriticizeandeducatethechildrenhavingpuppylove.Makinglawtosnufftheyoungsters’natureisbothabsurdandwoeful,isn’tit?
AsfarasIcansee,it’sboththeChinesetraditionalcultureandmodernculturalchangesthatresultinthisproblem.It’saChinesetraditionthatparentshopetheirchildrentosucceedandbecomesomebody.Theyattachgreatsignificancetoeducationbutdon’tknowthescientificeducationmethods.Bothparentsandteachersonlyfocusonchildren’sgradeswhiletheyignoreotherimportantthingssuchassexeducationandloveeducation,whichcausesthechildrentohavenoideahowtodealwithloveaffairs.Inaddition,sincewearelivinginamodernandopenera,childrenhaveaccesstomanynovels,comicsandTVseriesaboutlove.Theyaremorelikelytohavepuppylove.Becauseofalackofloveeducation,someofthemarenotabletobalancetheirloveandstudies,whichcausestheirperformancestodecline.Thisworriesparentsandteachersverymuchandthyoftenuseimproperandrudeapproachestostoppuppylove,onlytomakesthechildrenveryannoyedandhaslittleeffect.
Asismentionedabove,Chineseparentsandteachersdon’tattachmuchsignificancetoloveeducation.Theyarenotawareoftheimportanceofloveeducationandtheirownmistakes,h
