Toforgiveisavirtue,butnoonehaseversaiditiseasy.Whensomeonehasdeeplyhurtyou,itcanbeextremelydifficulttoletgoofyourhate.However,forgivenessispossible,anditcanbesurprisinglybeneficialtoyourphysicalandmentalhealth.Peoplewhoforgiveshowlesssadness,angerandstressandmorehopefulness,accordingtoarecentresearch. 小题1: Trythefollowingsteps: Calmyourself. 小题2: Youcantakeacoupleofbreathsandthinkofsomethingthatgivesyoupleasure:abeautifulsceneinnature,orsomeoneyoulove. Don’twaitforanapology.Manytimesthepersonwhohurtyoudoesnotintendtoapologize.Theymayhavewantedtohurtyouortheyjustdon’tseethingsthesameway. 小题3: Keepinmindthatforgivenessdoesnotnecessarilymeanbecomingfriendsagainwiththepersonwhoupsetyou. Takethecontrolawayfromyouroffender.Rethinkingaboutyourhurtgivespowertothepersonwhocausesyoupain.Insteadoffocusingonyourwoundedfeelings,learntolookforthelove,beautyandkindnessaroundyou. 小题4: Ifyouunderstandyouroffender,youmayrealizethatheorshewasactingoutofunawareness,fear,andevenlove.Youmaywanttowritealettertoyourselffromyouroffender’spointofview. Don’tforgettoforgiveyourself. 小题5: Butitcanrobyouofyourself-confidenceifyoudon’tdoit. |
A.Whyshouldyouforgive? |
B.Howshouldyoustarttoforgive? |
C.Recognizethebenefitsofforgiveness. |
D.Trytoseethingsfromyouroffender’sangle. |
E.Forsomepeople,forgivingthemselvesisthebiggestchallenge.
F.Tomakeyourangerdieaway,tryasimplestress-managementtechnique.
G.Ifyouwaitforpeopletoapologize,youcouldbewaitinganawfullylongtime.