HowtoLove 　　Loveisastrangething.Itcanbethemostamazingfeelingintheworld,oritcanreallyhurt,butintheendloveissomethingmost,ifnotallofus,willface.Whiletherearemanydifferentwaystodefineloveandtherearemanydifferentwaystolovesomeone(evenyourself),hereisageneralguidetoloving. 　　Steps 　　Sayit.Whenyousaythewords"ILoveYou",theyshouldcarrywiththemthedesiretoshowsomeonethatyoulovethem,notwhatyousimplywanttofeel.Whenyousayitmakesureyoureallymeanitandarewillingtodoanythingforthatspecialperson. 　　Empathize.Putyourselfinsomeoneelse'sshoes.Ratherthanimposeyourownexpectationsorattempttocontrolthem,trytounderstandhowtheyfeel,wheretheycomefrom,andwhotheyare.Realizehowtheycouldalsoloveyoubackjustaswell. 　　Loveunconditionally.Ifyoucannotloveanotherpersonwithoutattachingstipulations,thenitisnotloveatall,butdeep-seatedopportunism(onewhomakesthemostofanadvantage,oftenunmindfulofothers).Ifyourinterestisnotintheotherpersonassuch,butratherinhowthatpersoncanenhanceyourexperienceoflife,thenitisnotunconditional.Ifyouhavenointentionofimprovingthatperson鈥檚life,orallowingthatpersontobethemselvesandacceptingthemastheyare,andnotwhoyouwantthemtobe,thenyouarenotstrivingtolovethemunconditionally. 　　Expectnothinginreturn.Thatdoesn'tmeanyoushouldallowsomeonetomistreatorundervalueyou.Itmeansthatgivinglovedoesnotguaranteereceivinglove.Trylovingjustforthesakeoflove.Realizethatsomeonemayhaveadifferentwayofshowinghisorherloveforyou,donotexpecttobelovedbackinexactlythesameway. 　　Realizeitcanbelost.Ifyourealizethatyoucanlosetheoneyoulove,thenyouhaveagreaterappreciationofwhatyouhave.Thinkhowluckyyouaretohavesomeonetolove.Don'tmakeanidolofthepersonyoulove.Thiswillplacethemunderunduepressureandwilllikelyresultinyoulosingthem. 　　Tips 　　Itdoesnotmakeyouabadpersontodesiresomeoneelse'slove,eveniftheydonotloveyou.However,totrulylovesomeone,youmustletthembefree.Itisselfishtoblamethemforyourfeelings. 　　Therearemanytypesoflove,forexample:amother-sonloveisdifferentfromabestfriend'slove,whichisdifferentfromaromanticlove.Don'tbeashamedtotellanyonethatyouloveyourfriendsasmuchasyouloveanyoneelseinyourlife. 　　Youhavetofindsomeonethatwillsuityou,someoneyoufeelcomfortablewith-notjustsomeonetomakeloveto. 　　Asaword,lovecanbefoundworldwideandisoftenusedtodescribecompassionand/oremotionalattachment.Acceptingthoseyouloveforwhotheyareispartoflove.Youalsoneedtolearntoacceptyourselfbeforeyoucanacceptanother.Ifyoucannotloveyourself,howareyoutoloveanother? 　　Lovegenuinely.Donotcompareyourfeelingsnowtowhatyourfeelingswerewhenyouwerewithanothermate.Attimes,wecanexperiencerejection. 　　RealizethatloveisafeelingthatwikiHowcandescribeandattempttoassist,butultimately,youaretheonewhomusttakeactioninordertodiscoverlove. 　　Dothingsthatmaketheotherpersonfeelgood,butdonotsmotherthemwithgiftsandattention. 　　Considersometipsaboutwhatpeopleinlovedo. 　　Peopleinlovearesensitivetoeachother'sneeds,andendeavourtomeetthem