I was going through my son Matthew's backpack when I saw an envelope in the bottom of it．Immediately，I knew it was a"thank you"card from one of his（41）___．Totally not necessary since my Christmas gifts to them are my way of saying，"Thank you"．I（42）___I read it quickly．And then I stopped．

I （43）___ the card and read it again．One word caught my attention．"I love working with our Matthew．"One word．Our．That one word（44）___ the meaning of the sentence for me．If she had written"I love working with Matthew"，I would know that she loves working with my son．（45）___ by adding that one word，"our"，it meant"I love working with this boy who （46）___ here，is accepted here and we all take responsibility for caring for．"

I （47）___ knew this，of course，seeing a blog I wrote previously，but it's always good to be（48）___．In that blog post I mentioned ten reasons why his （49）___ is the right place for him．Since that blog we have had his IEP （Individualized Education Program） meeting，where I was（50）___ of that feeling again．In that meeting，someone（51）___"Everyone loves Matthew．We all love Matthew"．And it was genuine and（52）___．As we went around the room and the staff（53）___ us on information about Matthew，it was apparent that it went way beyond sharing what he is doing（54）___ and behaviorally．Each person had a unique little （55）___ to tell about Matthew．Stories that show that they really know who Matthew is and that they （56）___ him．

In fact just today I had written a note in his communication book that it was （57）___ Matthew to see new snow and not be able to play in it．Later in the day I got an email and a picture of Matthew （58）___ with snow in a big container inside the school．

As I was reflecting on this，I realized that as a family we are really lucky （59）___ school isn't the only place where they think of him as"our Matthew"．It （60）___ to other parts of our lives as