I've been in poor health this year，and it got me thinking：What ifIcan'tbe with my daughter？Who is going to help her along life's journey？Life is so long and she is so little．I can't offer her all the answers because I am still learning every daymyself．ButI still have two lessonsto make herknow before I leaveher．

The first is that we can't control other people's behavior but we can control how we react to it．There are always some disputes （纷争） in our life，where we may feel angry and lose our minds to say something．Can you imagine how different the world would be if every person took a step back，and didn't automatically react to something？Instead of mirroring some bad behaviors，we should choose to behave in a way that befits our values，or a way that's more thoughtthrough．

It's not always easy to think wisely about something on the spur of themoment．However，afterwardswhenwe stillfeelangry atsomething that someone said or did，we can choose how we want it to affect us．We can choose our behavior．

The second is that we should be grateful each day．Try to find the joy in the small things．Have fun now．Easier said than done，but practice helps．When I'm feeling sad，I try to drag myself out of it by being grateful for small things．I will feel grateful that the traffic lights are all green and give me a clear run．I will feel grateful that it doesn't rain when I'm pushing the baby carrier into town．Acknowledgingthesmall thingscan help liftmy mood．

We should remember that we still have dreams and things we would like to have and that nothing can stop us from being grateful for what we have now and trying to findhappiness now．

I hope my dear daughter can remember the two lessons whether I will be aroundher or notandleadahappy life．

41．Whydoestheauthordecide to write thearticle？___

A．She has two valuable lessons to share withthereaders．

B．Sheis adevotedmotherwhoisexpert at guidingpeople．

C．She hopes