Weallhavepeoplewithwhomwehavetoworktogetthingsdone.Ourabilitytocommunicatewithclients,customers,subordinates,peers,andsuperiorscanenhanceoureffectivenessorsabotageus.Manytimes,ourverbalskillsmakethedifference.Hereare10waystoincreaseyourverbalefficacyatwork:
Developyourvoice–Ahighwhineyvoiceisnotperceivedtobeoneofauthority.Infact,ahighsoftvoicecanmakeyousoundlikepreytoanaggressiveco-workerwhoisouttomakehis/hercareerattheexpenseofanyoneelse.Begindoingexercisestolowerthepitchofyourvoice.Hereisonetostart:Sing—butdoitanoctaveloweronallyourfavoritesongs.Practicethisand,afteraperiodoftime,yourvoicewillbegintolower.
Slowdown–Peoplewillperceiveyouasnervousandunsureofyourselfifyoutalkfast.However,becarefulnottoslowdowntothepointwherepeoplebegintofinishyoursentencesjusttohelpyoufinish.
Animateyourvoice–Avoidamonotone.Usedynamics.Yourpitchshouldraiseandlower.Yourvolumeshouldbesoftandloud.ListentoyourlocalTVnewsanchor;takenotes.
Enunciateyourwords–Speakclearly.Don’tmumble.Ifpeoplearealwayssaying,“huh,”toyou,youaremumbling.
Useappropriatevolume–Useavolumethatisappropriateforthesetting.Speakmoresoftlywhenyouarealoneandclose.Speaklouderwhenyouarespeakingtolargergroupsoracrosslargerspaces.
Pronounceyourwordscorrectly–Peoplewilljudgeyourcompetencythroughyourvocabulary.Ifyouaren’tsurehowtosayaword,don’tuseit.
Usetherightwords–Ifyou’renotsureofthemeaningofaword,don’tuseit.Startaprogramoflearninganewwordaday.Useitsometimeinyourconversationsduringtheday.
Makeeyecontact–Iknowapersonwhoisverycompetentinherjob.However,whenshespeakstoindividualsorgroups,shedoessowithhereyesshut.Whensheopensthemperiodically,shestaresoffinadirectionawayfromthelistener.Sheisperceivedasincompetentbythosewithwhomsheconsults.Onetechniquetohelpwiththisistoconsciouslylookintooneofthelistener’seyesandthenmovetotheother.Goingbackandforthbetweenthetwo(andIhopetheyonlyhavetwo)makesyoureyesappeartosparkle.Anothertrickistoimaginealetter“T”onthelistener’sfacewiththecrossbarbeinganimaginarylineacrosstheeyebrowsandtheverticallinecomingdownthecenterofthenose.Keepyoureyesscanningthat“T”zone.
Usegestures–Makeyourwholebodytalk.Usesmallergesturesforindividualsandsmallgroups.Thegesturesshouldgetlargerasthegroupthatoneisaddressingincreasesinsize.
Don’tsendmixedmessages–Makeyourwords,gestures,facialexpressions,tone,andmessagematch.Disciplininganemployeewhilesmilingsendsamixedmessageand,therefore,isineffective.Ifyouhavetodeliveranegativemessage,makeyourwords,facialexpressions,andtonematchthemessage.
Improvingyourcommunicationskillswillimproveyourproductivity.
