Teenswantstructureintheirliveswhichmeanstheywanttheirliveswell-planned.Tobeginbuildingstructureteensneedloveandtrust.Theyneedtoknowtheirparentsarctheretogivethemneededloveandsupport(支持).Teenswanttobesurethatnothingcanpreventparentsfromshoulderingtheirresponsibilityforthem—nottheirgrowingmaturity(成熟)misbehaviornorangeratsomethingtheyhavedone.Teenswantparentstokeepcontrolwhileallowingthemtomakesomedecisions.

Therearesomewaysyoucanhelpyourteenscreatereasonablestructureandremainclose.Onewayistospendtimetogether.Parentsoftenmistaketheirteens’increasedinterestinfriendsforadisinterestinthefamily.

TeenswouldliketospendmoretimedoingthingswiththeirparentsbutwatchingTVisnotcountedasspendingtimetogether.Asyourteensmatureitisimportantforyouandyourteensspendtimealonetogetheronetoone.Yourteensneedtimetotalktoyoualonewithoutanyotherfamilymemberpresent.

Talkwithyourteensabouttheirinterestsandconcerns.Makesureyoureallyshowinterestinwhatishappening.Whentalkingwithyourteensgivefullattentionanddonotstopthem.

Thewaytohelpyourteensbecomeadultsistoletyourteensintoyourworld.Sharingyouremotionsandconcernswithyourteensisimportant.Avoidcausingneedlessworry.

Trustyourteens.Don'texpecttheworst.Hopeforthebest.Tellingyourteensyoudon’tliketheirfriendswillcausetheteensnottobringtheirfriendshome.Ifsomethingshouldgowrongbelievethatyourteensdidn’tdoitonpurpose.

Itisveryimportantthatyoutreatyourteenswithrespect.Teensneedthesamerespectadultsshowfortotalstrangers.Don’ttalkdowntoyourteens.

Youneedtobesupportiveofyourteens.Whatmaybeasmallproblemtoyoumaybetroublingtoyourteens.Teensdon'thavetheexperiencesthatadultshavehad.Lettheteensknowthatyouunderstandhowmuchithurtswhensomethinghappensthatisupsettingorhurtfultothem.Astheymaturetheycanlookbackatsomeproblemstheyhadandlaughathavingbeenupsetbysomethingthatnowseemsunimportant.

Themostimportantthingstorememberare:talkwithyourteenslistentotheirworriesandoffersuggestionswhenneeded.Thiswill