Parentsopposedtoadultchild'svacationplans
DearAnnie:
Iaminmyearly30swithasmallchild.Irecentlywentthroughsomehardtimesandmovedbackhomewithmyparents.Ihaveneveraskedmyparentsformoney.Iworktwojobsandhaveputalittleawayinsavings.I'dliketotakeasmallvacation.Theonlymajorexpensewouldbetheairfare,andIhaveenoughforthat.
Myparentsarecompletelyagainstthetrip.TheyfeelIwouldnotbeabletoaffordtheairfareiftheyhadn'tbeenhelpingmeforthelastfewmonths.Iagree,butontheotherhand,Ineedalittletimewithfriendstorelaxandjusthaveagoodtime.I'manadult.Canmyparentsstilltreatmeasachild?
-TiredinOmaha
DearTired:
Whenadultchildrenliveathome,parentsarepronetotreatthemaschildren.Yourparentswantyoutosaveenoughtohaveyourownplaceandneedtoknowtheireffortstohelpyouarenotbeingfritteredawayonless-than-necessarythings.Theyalsomaynotwanttobaby-sitforyourchildwhileyouareaway,inwhichcaseyoushouldmakeotherarrangements.Thankyourparentsfortheirconcernandsayyouneedabreakfromyourtwo-jobroutinesoyoucancomebackrefreshedandproductive