WhatisyourRecoveryRate?
byGrahamandJulieHarris
Whatisyourrecoveryrate?Howlongdoesittakeyoutorecoverfromactionsandbehavioursthatupsetyou?Minutes?Hours?Days?Weeks?Howlong?Thelongerittakesyoutorecoverthemoreinfluencethatincidenthasonyouractions,thelessableyouaretoperformtoyourpersonalbest.Inanutshellthelongerittakesyoutorecovertheweakeryouareandthepooreryourperformance.
Justaskyourself:
HowmanytimeshaveIgotupsetwithmyspouseorpartnerforsomethingthechildrendidhoursago?
HowmanytimeshaveImissedanopportunitybecauseIwasstillfocusedonanupsetandallIcouldsaywas‘NO’toeverything?
HowmanytimeshaveIdrivenmycarerraticallybecauseIwasstillthinkingofanincidentthatmademeangry?
Thepointis:apoorrecoveryrateaffectsyourhealth.Apoorrecoveryrateaffectsyourwellbeing.Apoorrecoveryratestopsyoufromlivingtoyourpotential.
Youarewellawarethatyouneedtoexercisetokeepthebodyfitand,nodoubt,acceptthatareasonablemeasureofhealthisthespeedinwhichyourheartandrespiratorysystemrecoversafterexercise.Likewisethefasteryouletgoofanissuethatupsetsyou,thefasteryoureturntoanequilibriumthehealthieryouwillbe.Thebestexampleofthisbehaviourisfoundwithprofessionalsportspeople.Theyknowthatthefastertheycanforgetanincidentormissedopportunityandgetonwiththegamethebettertheirperformance.Infact,mostmeasurethetimeittakesthemtoovercomeandforgetanincidentinagameandmostreckonarecoveryrateof30secondsistoolong!
Howlongdoesittakeyoutorecoverandovercomeandforgetanincidentatworkorathome?
AmethodthatIandmanyothersusetohelpusreducetherecoverytimeisthemethodoftheFULLSTOP.
Imagineyourselftobeanactorinaplayonthestage.Youraimistoplayyourparttothebestofyourability.Youhavebeengivenascriptandattheendofeachsentenceisafullstop.Eachtimeyougettotheendofthesentenceyoustartanewoneandalthoughthenextsentenceisrelatedtothelastitisnotaffectedbyit.Yourjobistodelivereachsentencetothebestofyourability.
Nowthinkaboutyourlife.Imaginelifeisnomorethanaplay,adramaandweeachhavearoletoplayinthatdrama.Yourjobistoplayyourparttothebestofyourabilityandthebetteryouplayyourpartthemorechancethatyouwillinspireothersaroundyoutoimprovetheirperformance.Eachincidentyoufaceisanewsentence.Justputafullstopbehinditandstartagain.Acceptthateverytimeyoumeetsomeoneorhaveaconversationwithapersononthetelephoneorevensendanemailitisanewincident.Youhavebothmovedonsinceyoulastmet,sorememberingthelastoccasiononlykeepsyouinthepastandstopsyoumovingforwardandstopsyouseeingnewopportunities.Thenexttimeyouseethepersonthatupsetyou,oryouupset,isanewoccasion.Thereisnothingtobegainedbycontinuingfromwhereyouleftoff.Theincidenthasfinished.Youarebothinadifferentplacenow.Itisanewsentencesostartagain.
Mygrandmotherusedtocallitdestiny.“Acceptwhathashappenedaspartofyourdestinyandlivewithit”,wasafavouritephraseofhers.Youcannotchangewhathashappened.Sulkingorbroodingwillnothelp.Analysingwillonlygiveyouaheadacheandkeepitfreshinyourmind.Inthesamewaythatyoucannotenterthesamer