IwouldliketofindahusbandwhomIreallyloveandwhoreallylovesmeforlife.Iwillsearchthewholeworldfortheexactmatch.Tobespecific,IwanttobelovedbyamanwhosecharacterIadmire.Moreimportantly,hisattitudestowardslifemustresonatewithminesothatweunderstandandappreciateeachother.Weshouldbetemperamentallycompatibleandthelovebetweenusshouldbebasedonspiritualunderstanding.
Theso-called“socialstar”maynotsuitme,forIbasicallydon’tlikepeoplewhohaveaninstinctforpublicity.Iwouldlikemyhusbandtobecontemplative.Heshouldnotbetoointroverted,norshouldhebetalkative.Someonesaid,“Manshouldthinkmore,domuchandtalkless.”Iwouldpreferhimtobeamanofthoughts.Inaddition,hemusthaveothergoodqualities.Firstofall,Iwouldlikehimtobeawell-educatedmanwithanobjectivetoobserve.Thushewillhaveaninsightintothingsandpeopleandcanjudgeindependentlyandwisely.Iwillenjoylivingandtalkingwithahusbandwhohashisownideas.Amanusuallyattractsmenotbyhislooks,butbyhismind.Also,hemustbeconsiderateandsensitivesothathecanperceivemyrealfeelings.
Ihopemyhusbandwillbeamoralman.HeshouldrejectthevicesoflifelikeIdo.However,Idon’twanthimtoberigid.Heshouldbewiseenoughtocopewiththingsaroundhim.Heshouldalsobehumoroussowewillhavealotoffuntogether.Idon’twanttolivewithadullman.Besides,Ihopeheiskindandaffectionatetochildren.Heshouldalsoberesponsibleandreliable.WhenIamextremelyfrustrated,heshouldbetheshouldertocryon.Alltheseconstitutethecharacteristicsofmyidealhusband.
I’veknownaboutcouples’livesthroughbooksandmovies;sometimesIdreamaboutmyownlifeinthefuture.Ithinkonemustlivewithsomeonewhosharesthesamedreaminlife.Ifawomanwantstoleadastablelifewithoutmanychanges,shemaynotbehappymarryingamanwhoenjoysseekingafterchallenges.Myhusbandshouldhaveazestforlife.Heshouldn’tfocusonlyonhiswork.Instead,hemustbeabletofindjoyinthesimpliestthingsinlife.Ibelieveahappylifeisnotatalldecidedbythelivingcondition.Thewaywelookatitmattersgreatly.
Besidesstrivingforabetterliving,weshouldbothhavehealthyhobbiesandenjoyleisuretimewithourownfriends;aslongaswespendenoughtimetogether.Iwouldlikehimtohaveseveralgoodfriendswithexcellentpersonalities.Ourfamilyshouldbehisfirstpriority.I’llbegladifheiswillingtosharethehouseholdduties.Ihopesometimeswecantourduringholidaystoseetheoutsideworld.Furthermore,Ialsohopehewillhavesometasteinthearts.Hedoesn’tneedtobeavirtuoso,butatleastheshouldn’tbeignorantinthearts.
ThemostimportantthingIaskforisthemutualunderstandingandadmirationbetweenus.Ihopeweloveeachothernotonlyphysicallybutalsospiritually.Wemaycommunicatewellwitheachotherwithjusttheexpressionsinoureyesorseveralsimplewords.Oursoulsmustcombinetobeoneandourmindsconnect.
Maybemystandardsarealittlehigherthanmost.Iwouldliketoreceivethedeeplovefrommyfuturehusband,justasElizabethBrowningreceivedfromherhusband.Ilovethefollowingversesbyher:“Ifthoumustloveme/letitbefornaught/exceptforlove’ssakeonly.”Ihopemyfuturehusbandwillhavealsoreadthis.