Everyparentknowsit’simportanttohavegoodcommunicationwiththeirteens—actualconversationswithplentyofbackandforth.Theproblemofcourseisthatmostteenagersdon’tliketotalktotheirparents.Iusuallywe’reatfault.Wecan’tjustletthemtalk.Therearefartoomanyimportantlifelessonstoimpart(传授).

Itmightgosomethinglikethis:Jacquesandhisfatherareridinginthecar.OutoftheblueJacquesstartstalking.

I’vebeenthinking.Idon’tknowmaybeI’mgoingtobecomeanairplanepilot.OrmaybeI’llworkatBurgerBarnandalwaysliveathomewithyouandmom.Ormaybe…”

“YouknowJacquesyou’regoingtohavetostartthinkingseriouslyaboutwhatyouwanttodo.You’regoingtobeoutofhighschoolinacoupleyears.”

“Whatishisproblem?”Jacquessaystohimself.”“IwastryingtotellhimwhatI’mthinkingaboutbutallhewantstodoistogivemeanotherlecture.”

Jacquesandhisfathersitwithoutspeakingfortherestofthedrive.

Ourcommentsworrieswarningsandlessons—theyseemimportant.Wewanttoguideourkidsdownthebestpossiblepath.Andifwehearsomethingfromthemthatseemstobegforourimportantguidancehowcanwenotgiveit?Butoftentheonlythingthatouradviceaccomplishesistokilltheconversation.

Whentheytalkfreelyitislikeatinyflamethatweshouldtrytokeepalivefanningitgentlytokeepitgoing.Whentheywerelittlekidswecouldn’tstopthemtalkingbutnotmuchskillisrequiredtogetasecondgradertotellyouabouthisday.

Thesolutionseemssosimple.Allyouhavetodoisshutup.Sticktoinnocuouscommentslike”Youthinkso?”or“Really?”orrepeatabriefversionofwhatyousaid.

【小题1】Whatdoestheauthorintendtosayinthepassage?

A.Shutyourmouthandlistentoyourteens.

B.Makeagoodplanforyourchildintime.

C.Learnhowtoteachyourchildtocommunicate.

D.Makepropercommentsonyourchild’sbehaviour.

【小题2】TheauthortakesJacquesandhisfatherasanexample______.

A.toshowparentsareatfaultwhentalkingwithkids

B.toimplyJacques’sfatherisn’tagoodfather.

C.toindicatecommunicationishardtogoon

D.toshowJacques’fatherisabsorbedindiving